Dating Colombian Single Mothers

Years ago, I met a chick in Cali that was cute. We met on a website called Colombian Cupid that you can find here if you want to meet and date cute Colombian chicks.

At any rate, we agreed to have our first date at some bar in the city. I showed up earlier than she did as she showed up a tiny bit later.

But when she arrived, she showed up in a black dress with decent hair.

The date went well and ultimately we ended the night at her place.

When I woke up, I get dressed and walked to find a taxi.

So she can go to work at a hospital while I go back to my place.

We got along well and she was great for me personally. We had a type of chemistry I don’t have with most chicks and she had the type of body I liked a lot also.

So overall, she was a pretty cool chick.

But there was one issue that was a deal breaker for me when it comes to serious relationships – she had a kid.

Simply put, I’m not interested in being in a serious relationship with a single mother.

There are various reasons for that – some of which will be discussed in greater detail below.

And other things to mention as well when it comes to simply going on dates and getting to know a chick that is a single mother.

Some good, some bad.

So let’s discuss all those observations that I have noticed from encountering single mothers in the dating scene in Colombia.

Observation 1: Want Kids Yourself or Not?

This is something I have considered myself personally.

For me, I don’t really care to have kids personally. Not against them but not crazy to have them either.

Maybe someday but it really depends on how things play out in the future and if I feel a greater desire to have them.

But this then brings up a question – why care for someone else’s kids if I don’t care that much to have some of my own?

Doesn’t make sense. I feel if you are on the fence about having your own kids like I am or definitely don’t want them…

Then it wouldn’t make sense to raise someone else’s.

Observation 2: Issue of Attachment

One issue I have with having a serious relationship with a chick that has kids is the issue of attachment.

Because over time of being with her, you are likely to form some bond with her kid as you spend time with her kid and you two get to know each other.

This deepens as you spend more and more time with her in a serious relationship.

Now given that most serious relationships do end eventually, what happens to that kid?

Well, if you developed some degree of a bond with the kid, then I imagine it would stink to lose someone you met in life.

I’ve never had this issue myself but it’s something I’ve heard other dudes experience as they developed bonds with the kid of the single mother and things in the relationship didn’t work out.

But it’s most important to ask what it means for the kid.

I’m not an expert on this subject so I’m not sure how developing a bond with a kid and leaving is will impact the kid.

But I imagine it wouldn’t be good and I wouldn’t feel it to be very ethical to develop that bond and then arrive to a situation where the serious relationship is over.

Where the kid might suffer in some way due to the person it developed an attachment with leaving its life.

The thought of that makes me uncomfortable and unjust to the kid involved. So I’d rather not get involved too seriously with a single mother.

Observation 3: Not My Kids

Another issue I have with single mothers in Colombia (or anywhere) is the idea of supporting financially and emotionally the children of another guy.

This is similar to the first observation but really deserves its own point.

In large part because it’s a strong enough feeling inside me that makes me not want to invest in the children of another man. For whatever reason, that’s simply something that just doesn’t fly with me.

And would make all of this a deal breaker from this alone.

Observation 4: Dad in the Picture?

Another issue when dealing with single mothers in Colombia or anywhere is dealing with the possible dad in the picture.

Now keep in mind that plenty of fathers leave their kids in Colombia. It’s such an issue that it wouldn’t surprise me if it is a bigger issue in Colombia than in the US.

But I’d be willing to bet for sure that it is from what I have seen.

Either way, the dad could still be in the picture because not all Colombian fathers are deadbeats.

But for me personally, I’m just not interested in being in a relationship with a chick where the father of the kid she has is still involved in her life.

Keep in mind that a lot of people these days wouldn’t like it if their partner was still talking and spending time with their ex.

So why would it be as acceptable to be with someone where the child of their kid (and possible ex-husband) is still in the picture in some capacity?

For me, just not something I’d like to deal with. You don’t know if she could go back to the guy or if the guy could make things awkward or uncomfortable.

And all the negatives with this beat any positive of being with a single mother.

Especially when there are plenty of chicks these days that are not single mothers – why settle with one and take on all the negatives mentioned so far when it’s not necessary?

Observation 5: Issue with Dates

An issue I have encountered with single mothers in Colombia is that they are more difficult to set up dates with generally speaking.

Now keep in mind Colombian chicks – regardless of having kids or not – are known for showing up late to dates or flaking.

But when you add kids to the mix, it makes it more difficult to set up a date. Even if she likes you a lot, you have to remember that her time is much more limited understandably.

And so they are more likely to show up even more late than chicks without kids and are more likely to flake in my experience.

So this is another issue when trying to date – either casually or seriously – a Colombian single mother.

Observation 6: Fidelity Issues

In my experience, chicks in Colombia that are more likely to be single mothers are often “barrio chicks.”

Now this isn’t always the case – you got chicks from all backgrounds that end up in this situation. It’s just that from what I have observed, “barrio chicks” are more likely to be single mothers than chicks from other backgrounds.

You can read this article I wrote here that goes into more detail about these chicks.

But basically they often come from low income neighborhoods with more crime and poverty. Are more likely to have multiple dudes and a lot more sex partners in their lives.

All around, they seem to be more likely to be single mothers just from personal experience.

At any rate, as I have said elsewhere on this website, this type of chick is not usually the faithful type.

Now plenty of them can be faithful but I have noticed that “barrio chicks” tend to be more likely to be unfaithful than other demographics.

With them playing multiple dudes at the same time.

So when dealing with single mothers in Colombia, I have often come under impression that they are not always the most faithful type.

Though I’ve never been with one in a serious relationship to where I got cheated on to be fair.

But it’s more that in my experience dealing with a woman, you can usually get a sense over time of dealing with her if she seems like someone who can likely be faithful or not.

And in my time dealing with single mothers in Colombia, plenty of them end up being “barrio chicks” and don’t come across as the faithful type whatsoever.

Again, not all are like that.

But it’s simply something that I think you should be worried about if you are going to deal with a Colombian single mother.

Observation 7: Being Treated as a Human ATM

One issue you will find among some single mothers in Colombia (though not all)…

Is that they are more likely to treat you like a literal ATM machine.

Keep in mind that these chicks simply have a lot less money and not always working the best jobs..

If they even have a job to begin with.

And so you will find more women among single mothers in Colombia that try to use foreign men as literal ATM machines.

Where they will ask you for a few hundred bucks.

If you are not in Colombia yet, a chick that is like this will ask for the money before you even arrive.

Where she has some emergency for example and needs some money sent by Western Union.

Or you will have met her in person, gone on a date and maybe even had sex.

And a week or so afterwards, she asks for a few hundred bucks because she wants to go to a beauty salon.

Because she is, in her words, “basically your girl” and you want “your girl” looking pretty, right?

Any chick that is trying to emotionally manipulate you regarding needing help for her kid or by trying to pull money out of you in other ways is most likely trying to scam you.

And most likely is not “your girl” and has other guys that she is doing this to also.

Now keep in mind that most single mothers in Colombia are not like this. It’s just that this behavior is more common among their group than most other types of chicks in Colombia.

My advice is to never send a single dime ever. It’s not necessary for when you are trying to get laid with her for example. On top of that, I wouldn’t send a dime even if I was looking for something serious as no serious chick I met would be asking for money in this way.

Observation 8: Plenty are Sexy

Despite all the negatives mentioned about single mothers in Colombia, it should be mentioned that there are positives too.

Keep in mind that they are still Colombian and there are plenty of sexy women here from all backgrounds.

So when it comes to more casual dating, you can easily find plenty of sexy chicks here that happen to be single mothers.

Therefore, definitely don’t forget these chicks if you are looking to enjoy a more bachelor lifestyle in Colombia. These chicks often can have cute personalities with great bodies like plenty of other Colombian women that you can find in this country down here.

Observation 9: Easier to Impress

In my experience, single mothers in Colombia usually either have various guys in their life that they are playing with.

Or they are playing with basically nobody.

In the first case, these chicks will often have local barrio dudes that they are playing with for casual fun and maybe an occasional meal here.

But those local dudes don’t usually have a lot of money. So unless she is getting money sent to her via Western Union by some poor foreign old dude, she isn’t living a high quality life most likely.

And same could be said for the chick that isn’t playing the field either. And with this one, she might likely have her own job and is not living off her parents. If that is the case, this type of chick simply doesn’t have the time or money to enjoy life as much.

Therefore, in either case, it’s usually not too hard to impress these chicks on a night out.

Now I’m not advocating that you spend a lot of money at a nice restaurant before having sex with her – as that is not necessary as I have written about here.

However, given that it’s easier to impress these chicks, that usually helps you a tiny bit when it comes to having a good date and hopefully getting laid.

So a night out to a bar where you buy her a beer or two can be quite nice for a chick that just doesn’t have as much time or money to do that.

Something you might do regardless of her having kids or not.

But given her circumstances…

This type of thing can be more impressive to her and serve to your favor a little bit more than normal when it comes to having a good date.

Observation 10: Sexually Easier

As you can guess by everything said so far in this article, these chicks tend to be sexually easier when compared to most Colombian chicks.

This is due to various reasons.

First, it’s slightly easier to impress her for reasons above.

Second, you will likely have more exotic foreign value with these chicks as they are less likely to actually be going on dates with foreigners in real life.

That isn’t to say that some of them are not scamming foreign dudes online out of a few hundred dollars as they have done before to others….

But that’s different from actually meeting in real life and going on a date with a foreign dude that she likes. Which is an experience most of them don’t always get.

Much less so than other Colombian chicks that might meet foreigners more often depending on their background.

Third, these chicks are more likely than other groups to be “barrio chicks.” As said before, barrio chicks just tend to be sexually easier than other Colombian chicks.

Final Thoughts

So as you can see, there are benefits and negatives to dating single mothers in Colombia.

Ultimately, there are nice chicks here that are single mothers and they are often good people. It’s just that for the negative reasons mentioned above, I do not see these chicks are serious relationship material.

But for hanging out and casual dating – nothing wrong with them! In fact, they can often be quite fun like the chick mentioned on top of this article.

At any rate, if you have any insight or questions of your own, let me know in the comment section or send me an email anytime you like in the future.

Thanks for reading this article and take care.

Hasta luego parceros,

Seth

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