Guide to Dating Colombian Women for Hookups

It’s sunny outside and you are sitting on a bench with a nice beautiful Colombian girl who you met for a date. Everything isgoing well and you are glad for taking the trip to Colombia.

Of course, many of you who read my articles are most likely interested in enjoying the dating scene and nightlife in Colombia

But some of you without much experience may wonder….

What is the best way to set up a date with a Colombian girl so you can have a nice time as described above?

Well, there are obviously a lot of factors to consider.

  1. Are you looking for something casual or something serious?
  2. What Colombian city are you in?
  3. How well do you know the city you are in?
  4. Do you speak Spanish to a conversational level?

And these are just a few of the factors to consider that could change how the date goes.

Regardless, there are some common things you will see in most Colombian cities

Such as the fact that shopping malls, bars and parks tend to make the best places for starting the first date with a Colombian girl.

Which is something you will see when you travel to Colombia by Avianca Airlines or whatever airline you prefer

But before we get ahead of ourselves, let’s break up how you should start a date with a Colombian girl based on one very important factor…

Do you want something casual or something serious?

In my experience dating women, this factor is one of the most important in how it influences how I’m going to set up and lead the date.

So let’s keep it simple and focus on how you should best set up your dates in Colombia based on this very important factor to consider.

This topic will be divided into two different articles in which this one focuses on how to find a Colombian woman forsomething casual.

First: Which City?

When deciding on a city in Colombia, you should pick a city where the women are going to be easier and where the women are more physically attractive than elsewhere in Colombia.

For this reason, I would not recommend any small city that is not touristy and conservative like Popoyán.

Simply because the women are a bit more conservative and also because it is a smaller city where you will be noticed within enough time as someone who is looking for casual sex

Especially if you are going on endless amounts of dates, you will be talked about eventually

And that will hurt your chances of finding more people for casual sex in a place like that

There are also bigger cities in Colombia like Bogota or Bucaramanga where the women tend to be a little more conservative overall.

And both cities do have very beautiful women but not the most beautiful in all of Colombia in my opinion.

Additionally, I know plenty of people would recommend Medellin as a top choice.

However, I would recommend against it. I have written elsewhere on this website for why Medellin is really a bit overplayedand it is simply not the best city in the country for casual sex in my opinion.

Yes, there are very beautiful women there but you can find very beautiful women all over Colombia….

And there are issues with the dating market for foreigners there as mentioned in other articles I have written.

So where should you go?

Well, while a city like Bogota is one of the better choices in Colombia, especially when you take into factor all the nice touristy places you can visit here…

When we are only considering the women, I’d recommend Barranquilla, Pereira/Manzales and Cali.

Women in Pereira and Cali for example are well known for being some of the easiest in the country.

And between the two, women in Pereira tend to be more beautiful but you can find sexy women in either city.

Barranquilla is also another favorite of mine where the women there tend to be a bit on the easier side and also quite attractive. Not to mention you have plenty of sexy women in nearby cities of Santa Marta and Cartagena.

Second: Phone Numbers

So now you have a city chosen….

If you only want something casual, the first thing you want to do is to get as many numbers as possible in the most time efficient manner.

Way back before Tinder was ever a thing and online dating wasn’t as well developed, this would be a little more difficult

In that you would actually have to get up and physically go outside to get numbers

Which would mean you would be going to common public spaces to strike up a conversation at a place like a park or a bookstore or somewhere else and find nice girls to talk with and ask for a number

Or go to any of the bars in your city and see what happens there

You can still do that and I would recommend it as there is value there

But nowadays it is very easy – just open up Tinder and get as many matches as possible.

Which, by the way, I wrote another article on how to use Tinder in Colombia to have decent results

Regardless, using Tinder is going to be one of your better ways to get numbers down here.

I don’t recommend nightlife for getting new numbers because most Colombian bars and nightclubs have mostly tables and chairs

Meaning that girls show up in groups or with their partner and are not always interested in meeting someone new

So it’s really Tinder or going outside and meeting chicks in public places most of the time

For time efficiency, Tinder is the better option here.

However, it should be mentioned the physical quality of the chicks is going to be better when it comes to approaching in public over Tinder

But Tinder has plenty of hot chicks also, so it’s not much to worry about. Just something to keep in mind.

So open up Tinder and just be direct in asking for the number from the girls you match up with. Take the numbers from there and from the occasional girl you meet in public and then start your process of elimination

Prioritize the girls by 3 factors:

  1. How interested in you does she seem and how engaging is she in the conversation
  2. Is she physically attractive enough for you
  3. Is she within a reasonable distance from you that having a date would be possible

For girls who don’t meet all 3 criteria, just stop talking to them

There is no point in trying to make a girl interested in you if she is low energy and doesn’t contribute to the conversation or seem interested in you

You are wasting your time doing that

Third: How Quick to Sex?

Next, you should decide on how quickly you want something casual with these women

For me, I always try to have sex on the first date. However, I have a maximum limit of 5 dates at most. In practice, that maximum limit is actually around 3 dates though unless I really like her and she seems interested in me but a little bit conservative

But for casual sex, you should usually aim for the first date generally speaking.

Keep in mind how liberal or conservative the broader city you are in also

Because in some cities it will be less realistic that sex will happen on the first date so you may have to adjust your standards to maybe 2 or 3 dates.

But for me, the cities I have spent the most time in tend to be liberal enough for just 1 date

The other thing to keep in mind is that if you don’t try to aim for sex on the first date, your success rate at having sex with each chick is going to be higher.

Because there are some chicks who are attracted to you and would have sex with you but simply won’t because “they don’t do it on the first date”

For example, I once tried to figure out how many chicks out of those that I brought back to my place on the first date would end up having sex with me some odd years ago

And keep in mind that just about any chick I went on a date with would go back to my place after enough escalation in the first date

That was never the problem. The issue was to see how many of those would actually have sex on the first date at my place

So by doing the math, I found the success rate at that specific time was about 59%

So basically 60% of the time almost

If I didn’t feel the need to get sex on the first date, what remaining percentage of those chicks would have had sex on thesecond date?

I have no idea.

Maybe 10% to 20%?

Anyone can guess but I never did the math for that.

However, because of the fact that the initial number was so close to 60% and because of how many would have sex on the first date….

I just don’t care enough to see how many would have sex on the 2nd date and take things slower when looking for something casual

Because those numbers and my experience tells me I can get what I want at a pretty satisfactory rate so why put in extra effort for only slightly more success?

At a 60% success rate, I’m already pretty happy

Because during the days I was more active dating for something casual, I’d usually get around 4 girls a month for sex

Which meant that not too much time had to be spent going on too many dates and plenty of success was possible too

So in summary, I’d encourage that for anyone else also.

You could delay things to see how many would have sex on the second date instead of the first, but it doesn’t seem like it’s worth the effort in my opinion most of the time

You can already have a decent amount of sex with more minimal effort

Which, keep in mind, can translate to more free time to be dedicated to more productive tasks like working out, earning more money, spending time with family and friends and doing something else you enjoy

Fourth: Setting Up the Dates

Next, you want to remember that Colombian girls are better known for simply not showing up to the date or showing up late

So you will also want to set up dates one after the other

Give each date about 3 hours if you are looking for sex on each date

Next, the girls will be more comfortable meeting you at a shopping mall in Colombia

So your apartment or hotel should be close to a nice shopping mall in the city and also ideally a few parks also

With each girl, make sure they show up to you

Do not waste your time running around a city you barley know to travel 30 to 40 minutes for a chick you don’t care much about personally

Especially, as mentioned elsewhere on this website, they will most likely show up late to the date anyway

Which makes you waste even more time waiting for them

So just sit in your apartment doing something productive while they show up to the nearest public place near you

But what if they don’t want to travel to you?

Forget the ones that don’t. Not worth your time if you want something casual on that date specifically.

If you have a girl who is much better looking than average and are willing to wait until the 2nd or 3rd date, then traveling to a farther meeting spot is OK

But if you want something casual on this specific date, logistics are important and she should be showing up near where you live

Keep in mind some will insist on you paying for a taxi to get them to where you are. Consider if the money (around 3 to 6 bucks per Taxi ride) is worth it. Up to you

So once she does show up, she will text you by Whatsapp

Then you leave your apartment and should be able to walk to where she is within 5 to 10 minutes

Don’t worry about making her wait 5 to 10 minutes – Colombians are used to people showing up late and it’s not really a big deal

Fifth: Escalation

Once you see her, greet her, kiss her on the cheek as is normal here and take her by the hand to lead her to one of 3 places – a park, a bar or a café

I always aim for a park myself. It’s free and has absolutely no cost to it. Why spend money on a chick you just met and havelittle personal interest in?

So at the park, just sit on a bench and have a normal conversation with her like you would with any chick on the first date.

Escalate physically depending on how interested she seems in you, how flirtatious she is and how comfortable you believe she is in escalating physically

After you get to the point of making out, you keep talking with her for a little bit more

And if you believe she is likely comfortable with having sex on the first date (most tend to be), then just come up with a reason for taking her back and you should be there in 5 to 10 minutes

At your place, don’t escalate to the point of sex right away obviously.

Just keep talking with her, flirting and kissing included

In most cases, you will likely reach the point of having sex in maybe 20 to 30 minutes after entering your apartment.

In the cases where she is not interested in having sex, this is very similar to the situation where you may have encounteredchicks on Tinder who are low energy and don’t seem interested in you

That you should cut her off once you believe that continued interaction with her will lead to nothing for you

In which case, you are confident that sex will not happen and that you are wasting your time

So just show her the door and tell her to have a nice day

Move on to the next chick that ideally you will be having a date with on the same day a few hours later or so.

On the other hand, there is the scenario where you do have sex with her…

Sixth: Extra Important Details

There are a few minor things to note here

First, have some condoms ready obviously before the date even begins and have them hidden away near the bed

Second, make sure the phone is silent before the date even begins. You don’t want your phone going off while you are trying to have sex. It’s distracting and could make her wonder what other girls you have in your life.

Third, don’t just kick her out right away after sex is done but be conscious of the time until the next date is supposed to begin. Have some small talk with her, joke a little bit and make her laugh and feel comfortable with you after she just had an intimate moment with you.

Fourth, keep in contact with the next date. She may be asking you a little bit beforehand if the date is still on. So just casually check your phone and say you are talking to a friend if the girl in your room asks who you are talking to.

Fifth, come up with a reason for why she needs to leave your place soon. Again, don’t make it seem like you are kicking her out because sex is over. She could feel bad if that happens. So say you have to meet up with some friends or something for work. Whatever works.

Sixth, I usually try to walk her back to some area where public transportation is available. For girls I have sex with, I don’tlike just opening the door and telling her to leave. Seems too cold.

Seventh, make sure to clean up the place once she is out of the apartment. No hairs on the bed or anything like that. The next chick that comes by will notice something like an odd hair here and there and would be more impressed by a clean room.

Eighth, you probably will want to have some quick snacks and water available in your room for the dates themselves and in between dates. If you have multiple dates on a day, you probably won’t have much time to cook anything. So have something quick that can be eaten and keep you from being hungry.

Ninth, keep up with the next chick that is showing up for the subsequent date to make sure everything is going as planned.

Tenth, in the case where one of these girls flakes, don’t sweat it. Ideally you have a few dates lined up against each other. Ifshe does flake, go spend this extra time doing something productive.

Eleventh, make sure to clean yourself up if you have to before the next date if she is not flaking. Perhaps take a shower if you want or whatever you feel is necessary for the moment.

Finally, you need to ask yourself if you are still down for having sex with the next chick if you already had sex that same daywith a previous chick. Sometimes you will, other times you won’t care to pursue it.

In cases where you don’t care to, you could always cancel the date and do something productive.

However, I prefer to not cancel and make the decision if I want more sex later during the date.

If not, I will simply enjoy the date, escalate with her like normal but try to have sex on a later date with whoever I am on a date with.

Repeat The Fun or Look For Someone New?

This is a question you need to ask yourself after you have sex with a chick.

Do you want to have sex with her again or look for someone new?

Personally, I tend to look for someone new always and don’t pursue for repeat sex with the same chick

Sometimes I do though – but only under one of two conditions:

  1. I like her personally beyond just the sex and spending time with her
  2. The sex we did have was amazing and some of the best I have had ever

Unfortunately, most chicks I have met on Tinder don’t meet either condition.

On the first condition, that isn’t to say that I dislike these chicks. In most cases, they are nice and we have a decent time.It’s just that few are interesting enough to make me want to see them again.

It’s not common to have that type of connection and only few chicks are interesting enough to have something like that.

On the second condition, most chicks I have had sex with are average. That isn’t meant to be a negative comment. It’s just the way it is. Most are not bad in bed but they are not amazing either. Just normal.

So I’d rather pursue someone new and dedicate the little time I have to new chicks

In part because pursuing new chicks makes it more likely you will find someone that meets either of those two conditions.

You are simply not going to meet a chick that meets either of those two conditions if you stick to meeting the same chicks you met before that didn’t meet either of those two conditions.

So move on to the next one in my opinion. It’s a better investment for your time that is limited.

Final Thoughts

When I began writing this article, I thought it would only be around 1,000 words or so.

Now it’s well over 3,000 words easily and it doesn’t even cover everything that I would have mentioned

Mostly because my mind was going all over the place with everything I know to be true and there are still some details I willlikely add in here at a later point when I remember them

So hopefully the information you find here will be helpful for now for how to set up an ideal date for something casual with a Colombian girl.

And if you more useful information, check out this recommended phrasebook for dating in Spanish to help you date Colombian women

Or use this translator for dating if your Spanish is going to be too rusty by the time you are in Colombia

Now what about setting up an ideal date for something serious as promised earlier in the article?

Well, given the length of this article, I believe it will be better to divide this up into two sections now.

So for those who want something serious, check up the following article for more with part 2 on this topic of setting up dates in Colombia.

And if you want to begin your journey prepared to Colombia, make sure to check out this great article I wrote on how to learn Spanish at home so you are ready to date Colombian women. 

If you have any questions or insight of your own, let me know below in the comment section.

Thanks and take care!

Hasta luego parceros,

Seth

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mike January 15, 2020

Great article on hooking up bro. Solid advice.

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