5 Dating Differences in Flirting Between the US & Colombia

I remember my first days ever living in Colombia way back in 2006

Back then, I eventually met my first Colombian girlfriend and we got to talking and getting to know each other

Exchanged numbers for example and got talking a lot over the phone between dates

And before we even had sex for the first time, she was already calling me her “media naranja”

Which for those who don’t know, is basically a way of calling someone your “other half”

Now to be fair, she was a woman that was a little bit flirtier with me than most other women were

Where she escalated verbally a bit quicker than others often do but it is still something that I have always seen among Colombian women

In short, they tend to be much flirtier than American women are overall

It’s much easier for example for a typical Colombian woman to say “te quiero” or even “te amo” than an American woman

And to be fair, as an American, it initially made me cringe a little bit when I saw a woman I knew only a tiny bit calling me her “media naranja”

Or whenever another woman down here would be as flirtatious in that way early on

But it’s something I got over quickly enough as I learned to accept the cultural difference

So what are some of the main things you need to know about flirting in Colombia and how it’s different to flirting in the US?

Let’s break down 5 key facts you should remember…

¡Vámonos parceros!

Fact 1: How to Flirt

In the US, I would often be hesitant to give any woman I didn’t have sex with yet any validation by calling her pretty or whatever

Now it’s not a terrible thing to do that in the US but you generally want to be more reserved in doing so in my experience

At least when you two are still getting to know each other initially

Now in Colombia, you should be a lot less hesitant to call a woman pretty down here for example

Linda, bella, hermosa, guapa, etc

Reason why?

It’s simply how things are down here. When you aren’t engaging in that way, women will sometimes fall into thinking that you are not that into them

And perhaps they shouldn’t waste their time on you too much or invest much

So definitely be more flirtatious overall

In the US, I usually was more hesitant to be too flirtatious because I found that I got laid more when I would compliment less overall

But in Colombia, it’s the exact opposite. In my experience, I got laid more than I allowed myself to compliment a little more

Way back many years ago when I was still experimenting in the dating scene down here, I even tried going back to my American ways

And not compliment as much to see how that would play out – treat Colombian women how I would treat American women

Now you know what happened?

I still got laid fine enough but the amount of chicks I was pulling went down

Where maybe I could get 1 or 2 chicks a week

Sometimes even 3 a week if I put in the effort

But now I was down to maybe 1 once a week or maybe 1 every other week

In large part because conversations on the phone went dead and cold quicker and chicks were more hesitant to go on dates

Because “they didn’t know me”

But when I complimented a little more and was a little more flirtatious, they were much more receptive to going out on a date and I simply got more dates

Now this isn’t to say that you should kiss a woman’s ass when you are flirting with them – don’t overdue it with the flirting obviously

Because women anywhere in the world will see that as you being desperate perhaps and finding you are being too much overall

Just be more flirtatious and give more compliments than you normally would while down here and you will overall see…

More numbers, more dates, more women and more hooking up

Fact 2: Be Direct on Sexual Flirting?

This is another difference between American and Colombian women that I have noted in my life

Remember how you should be more cautious when it comes to complimenting an American woman too much?

Well, oddly enough, sexual flirting is more accepted up there and being direct is a little more accepted also

Not direct like sending dick pics obviously

But I overall find that American women are a bit more open to sexual innuendos in conversations

And escalating the conversation sexually over text in a much more direct way and at a quicker pace as long as it flows well and is natural

While of course, as long as she is into you overall physically

But Colombian women are not like that.

As mentioned in another article I wrote here, Colombian women are not necessarily sexually harder or easier than American women

There are so many factors to consider that it really depends on your circumstances if they are harder or easier overall

But they are not as hesitant to have sex with you and can be just as easy as American women can be

One big difference though is that Colombian women have a much bigger preference for you being indirect than direct when it comes to sexual flirting and sexual innuendos

At least until you two have had sex already

Once you two have reached that point, then obviously sexual flirting and sexual innuendos are perfectly OK

But until that point, you want to be much more indirect.

Fact 3: Post Sex Flirting

In my experience, American women do tend to be a bit more flirtatious obviously after sex but not necessarily always

In the US, there are plenty of women that disassociate sex from anything that resembles feeling, romance, love, intimacy, etc

Just simply something two people do to have physical pleasure and that’s it

And so when you two finish having sex, she is not as likely as a Colombian woman to be as flirtatious in general

There are also other reasons for why this is the case

For example, American women in general tend to just be colder overall culturally and more “business like” in my experience even when it comes to having sexual or romantic encounters with someone else

On top of that, as mentioned in this article here, American women also tend to have lower self-esteem and lower confidence in themselves from what I have seen

Where after sex is done, she is more likely to not feel entirely confident in her own body or looks and in general has a more negative vibe overall

Now not all American women are like that – definitely not!

Just that all of this is more common than in Colombian women

So when you finish having sex with a Colombian woman, they are more likely to have an upbeat vibe, more positivity…

And also they are more likely to see the experience you two had as something intimate

And will feel much more comfortable than even before in flirting heavier and escalating romantically with you

Now speaking of romance and flirting…

Fact 4: American Women are More Afraid of Commitment

When it comes to flirting, American women are more afraid of commitment and escalating with a man romantically

In large part because a good deal of them simply want to focus on their career and education

Now there are women in Colombia that heavily prioritize those things as well but not usually in a way that makes them less focused on having a serious relationship

Colombian women usually prioritize well enough in finding someone to settle down with at an earlier age than American women do

Even the ones that are more career focused like the women in Bogota for example

And so when it comes to flirting…

Because American women are more hesitant to commit until they are much older in their 30s…

They usually don’t feel as much of a need to be flirtatious in general

In my belief, if they were more open to serious relationships at a younger age as much as Colombian women are, then they would probably be more flirtatious than they are now

That is simply another cultural difference between women in Colombia and the US when it comes to flirting and escalating romantically with someone

Fact 5: Geographical Differences

Of course, it always needs to be said that both the US and Colombia are very large countries

With very notable differences in the women in different areas

For example, in Bogota, the women are a bit more career focused and overall a little bit colder and distant with men romantically and when it comes to flirtation

Now not as cold or distant as American women overall but definitely more so when compared to the women in the rest of the country

While in the US, not every woman you see there is going to be as cold, distant and non-flirtatious as some chick working to be a CEO Manager at some random company in LA or wherever

Because when you start looking at American women in more rural places in states like Ohio for example, things are a little bit more different to be fair

Where women there are a little more flirtatious and sweeter in general than women in places like LA or Miami

So when talking about this subject, this always needs to be brought up

Because while generalizations do paint broad truths, they are still generalizations in the end

And regional and individual differences always need to be kept in mind when making larger generalizations at a national scale

Even when those generalizations at a national, regional or city scale have plenty of truth to them for the most part

Final Thoughts

In the end, I hope you have a better understanding of some of the general differences in how flirting works in both Colombia and the US

If you have any questions or insight of your own regarding this topic, let me know in the comment section or send me an email

Thanks for reading and take care!

Hasta luego parceros,

Seth

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