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Let’s say you are deciding on settling down with a nice girl down here but your Colombian girl won’t leave Colombia to go live in your country
Over the years of living in Colombia, I have met numerous foreigners marry a local Colombian girl from time to time
Many times they might use the services of a company to help them find a loyal and sweet Colombian wife — such as Dream Connections
After a while, one very important question is brought up always among all the couples where she is Colombian and he is from another country….
Where are we going to live?
This is a difficult question because living in another country is complicated
For him, he may prefer actually to return to his home country perhaps because he feels safer there and maybe his earningpotential is significantly higher there
And in many cases…
We hear about stories where the foreigner does manage to bring his Colombian wife back to the US or wherever he is from
And it is very commonly assumed in the US and elsewhere that any girl from Latin America more broadly speaking would “just die” to go live in the US
This assumption is partly rooted in the belief that life in the US is always going to be better than life in Colombia withouttaking into account personal preferences or circumstances
And sometimes it is rooted in a suspicious belief that all Latin American (and therefore Colombian) women just want to use these men for a green card or to divorce him for money in the US or elsewhere
However, in my years living in Colombia and having spent time elsewhere in Latin America, this is far from the case
Believe it or not, most Latin American women are not dying to go live in the US
And most in my experience absolutely do not prefer to live in the US
So why is this the case in my experience?
Based on my observations and also from asking my girlfriend and some other Colombian women I know….
Here are 10 reasons why your Colombian wife or girlfriend would not want to live in the US
Reason 1: The Family
In the US, it’s not uncommon to hear stories of people living far away from their parents.
The US is a big country after all and there are people who live 10 or more hours away from ther relatives
While this does happen in Colombia, it generally speaking is less common and less extreme than in the US
As the family unit in Colombia is much more important and intact
You don’t see as many Colombian women living so far away from their family
Maybe an hour or two but not 10 hours or something like that
For that reason, your Colombian wife is absolutely not going to want to live too far away from her parents and especially not as far away as in another country
Reason 2: Losing Her Friends
Similar to her family, her friends are going to be very important also in her life obviously.
By moving to the US, she isn’t going to have anyone in her life that she knows personally aside from you.
That is likely to make her feel dependent on you initially to have someone to spend time with and not feel so lonely
And given that her friends will be far away, she is likely to feel some loneliness anyway
And sadness also for not being able to spend time with her friends anymore
Reason 3: Language Barrier
Quite simple: She doesn’t speak English.
Now you can teach her English obviously and she can take classes somewhere
And given she is most likely in her 20s or 30s, her English is clearly not going to be perfect ever
So while it is possible for her to learn, it is simply a barrier that exists
In which she may decide it is simply not worth the effort
On top of that, she is going to prefer to live in a community that speaks her native language regardless of how well her English ever gets
Having lived as a foreigner in Colombia for all these years, I get that
There are days where you get tired speaking and thinking in Spanish for example and enjoy going back to English from time to time
It’s natural and easier because that is your native language regardless of how good your Spanish gets
There is always going to be that preference for most people to speak what is familiar and native than what is a foreign language
So if you do manage to convince your Colombian wife to travel or live in the US with you, make sure to help her learn English well. You can purchase an English learning book in Spanish such as this one or use a translator to help her out
Reason 4: Giving Up Her Ideal Job
In some cases, your Colombian wife may have spent years studying to be something very specific in Colombia like a doctor or a veterinarian.
However, her education and training in Colombia is not likely from what I know to transfer easily into the US
According to a few people I talked to on this manner, it can be very difficult for her to then become what she wants in theUS
She may likely have to do her education all over again when she is close to or already working in the field she wants to
So why move to a new country to completely give her dream job up?
Especially when in this new country she is not likely to work that dream job and is more likely to work some low end job that has nothing to do with that she was educated and trained for in Colombia
Additionally, if her English isn’t very good, her chances of getting that dream job that she already had in Colombia are muchlower in the US
And with very limited English, her chances of getting any good job in Colombia are lower also
Which leads us to another reason….
Reason 5: She is Already Comfortable in Colombia
Why live in the US where everything is very expensive and her chances of finding a good job as an immigrant with limited toEnglish is very low?
Your Colombian girl won’t leave Colombia while in her home country she may have a job that already pays her bills and gives her a little bit of savings per month
People who are comfortable financially in their home country like Colombia are simply a lot less likely to move to a completely new country
Now you may say that she can earn so much more in the US
Yeah, and spend so much more also given the higher cost of living
And as mentioned before, her job opportunities are very likely to be much more limited in the US
So she may end up struggling financially in the US having to work maybe 40 to 50 hours a week with little to show for it
Or live in Colombia working 30 to 40 hours a week with a job that already makes her financially comfortable
So the higher earning potential in the US doesn’t mean much when it barely covers the higher cost of living and she is already established financially in Colombia
Reason 6: Fear of Racism
This isn’t one of the biggest reasons to not live in the US from what I have heard
Most Colombians I know do not think that most Americans are evil or racist
However, they are aware that racism is an issue in the US like anywhere in the world
And given that she would be a latina in a country where most people are not latino, she is more likely to experience bigotryagainst her for being different in the US
And she knows that and that serves as another factor that would discourage her from making the move with you to live in the US
Reason 7: Culture is Unfamiliar
This is another big issue that I have noticed for why a Colombian girl won’t leave Colombia
Being from Colombia, she will notice that the culture is very different and unfamiliar
Sense of humor may be a bit different
She won’t be able to relate to people as well when talking about TV shows or music that she likes
Certain behaviors by Americans may be confusing or frustrating to her
Some of the things that she is accustomed to doing may cause others to be confused or angry at her
Overall, everything is simply much more unfamiliar with her and would cause more headache by living in the US or wherever your home country is
Reason 8: The Assumption She Wants a Green Card
One reason brought up a few times was that Colombian women are well aware of the stereotype that exists regarding foreign women wanting to marry and move to the US with an American.
That she doesn’t love him or is only a woman who wants a green card or his money
Which is one of the more insulting things to say to a woman that she only is using her body or sex to get what she wants from a guy like those things
Which, in her mind, means you are calling her a puta (bitch), gold digger or whatever else
In that end, that serves as another reason for her to be cautious about making the move
Reason 9: Fast Paced Life
Having spoken with a few Colombians who have moved to the US but ultimately decided to come back to Colombia….
One thing that encouraged them to move back was for the slower pace of life here
Most of them complained that everything is too high pressure….
And that jokingly it seemed like every American was always watching the clock to get angry at you if you were late by one minute
That extra pressure to be on time always caused them a lot of stress and discouraged them from wanting to stay there long term.
Reason 10: The Bureaucratic Process
In order for her to even live in the US, she has to get residency and probably will try to get citizenship someday.
Even though she is married to you or will get married soon, which makes the process easier for her…
It still takes a lot of work and money to get through that process of getting her to stay legally in the US as outlined by official information
And mixed in with all the other reasons that are out there, she simply may conclude that it is not worth the effort to make the move.
Final Thoughts
Overall, you should consider the possibility that your Colombian girl won’t leave Colombia to live in your country
This is obviously a very important topic for any couple where both people are from different countries
When talking with her about this topic, you should keep in mind these issues that she may face as it is possible your Colombian girl won’t leave Colombia
And also consider the possibility that….
Life for you two may be better in Colombia long term depending on your circumstances as a couple
Or if you decide against that, it would be important to consider the issues above so that her transition to life in the US is easier than what it would be if you two were unprepared
Hopefully this article was helpful in understanding why your future Colombian girl won’t leave Colombia to live in the US or elsewhere.
Provide any questions or insight of your own below.
And remember to check out my article on some of the ideal qualities a Colombian woman would need to live in your home country or my other article on ideal qualities to look for in a Colombian women in general
Or my article on the best places in Colombia to find a Colombian wife
All of which will help you find the ideal woman and maybe take her back home
Thanks and take care.
Hasta luego parceros,
Seth
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