Way back when I was studying abroad in Barranquilla, Colombia during my earliest days living here, I met a girl named Tamara who showed me how intense jealously in Colombian women can be
She was beautiful and we were a good match at the time
As mentioned before in another article, we met at a bar and had a lot of fun
Things went off from there and eventually formed a relationship
However, there was one issue in the relationship that made me have doubts about her repeatedly
And that was her jealously and sometimes controlling behavior
Which, by the way, is a common characteristic of Colombian women
Whenever you read an article about “top characteristics of Colombian women” or “5 things about Colombian women”
It always mentions jealously
However, some of you may wonder….
Is this true? Are all Colombian women like this?
All of them are jealous and controlling?
Well, no.
Definitely not all Colombian women are like that
However, if you date a Colombian woman, you are likely to notice jealously and controlling behavior in her
Despite the occasional chick here and there that proves to not be too jealous, most Colombian chicks are jealous based on my experience
So then you may ask….
Why Are Colombian Women Jealous?
Well, another word for jealously in this case is possessive.
Most Colombian women will view you as their possession after you begin seriously dating them
In return, they also will commonly feel it necessary for you to be possessive as well.
From the perspective of an outsider living here, there are a few things I’ve noticed that might help explain why both of thesedetails are true.
On the latter issue, a Colombian girl might expect you to be possessive because it is something that she sees in other people from her culture and so is normal for her
In addition to that, some Colombian chicks will equate possessiveness to feeling love or care for her.
When it comes to Colombian female jealously to you, keep in mind that infidelity is strong in Colombia
It is so common for women to assume that all men are cheaters
Therefore, Colombian women will tend to act on that assumption and be very jealous
Even more so if you are a foreigner, because lots of Colombian women will value a foreigner more than a local Colombian guy
So therefore will act more jealous because she values you and wants to keep you more
And in some cases, act very controlling also where she may want access to your cellphone and Myspace
Or perhaps want to limit what friends you have
Or do random “tests” to see if you are truly faithful or not…
All of which happened to me when I was with Tamara many years ago…
Jealously Turning into Controlling Behavior
As said before, one of the bigger issues I had with Tamara was that she was a bit jealous
However, her jealously often translated into controlling behavior
For example, she often wanted unlimited access to my cellphone and my Myspace
Though I don’t remember if Myspace was ever popular in Colombia in those days, I still used my Myspace when I was in Colombia back then
Even though most of the world was going to Facebook, I guess I was a bit lame and stuck to Myspace for a little bit longer…
Anyway, that’s not relevant to the story
Moving on….
I refused to give her access to my cellphone whenever she wanted and the password to my Myspace
For me, it just seemed too controlling
And I wanted my own space
Well, even though she always persisted in wanting access, I never gave it to her
But it didn’t stop there….
I also had some other friends in Colombia
A guy named Miguel who was from Barranquilla and still talk to this day
And some chicks too that I never had anything physical with but were just some girls I made friends with at a local collegeclass we attended
So every once in a while I would leave at night to see some of them
And she would always insist on knowing everything I did always
And when she found out I was just hanging out with a few chicks that I had nothing physical with, she was upset
Well, I was honest about who they were and how we met
But she insisted that I can’t be friends with any other chicks
And you know what I did?
I didn’t get angry or show any annoyance
Instead, I just told her calmly that I’m not giving up my friends for her and if she doesn’t like it..
Oh well.
And even though she may not have approved of them, she also didn’t approve of Miguel
She thought Miguel was just another Colombian guy who only wanted to sleep with a lot of women
And that he would encourage me to be unfaithful to her or something and go chase other women also
Well, despite her wanting me to stop talking to him also, I stood my ground
And for the most part, that was that
She may have wanted them gone, but I wasn’t leaving my friends for someone else
So she accepted my stance on the matter and that was it
Finally, there were other small things she did that were mostly tests on my fidelity
For one, we took a trip together to go to Punta Gallinas
For those unaware, Punta Gallinas is the northernmost point of South America and relatively close to Barranquilla I suppose
So we traveled to Riohacha first, which is another Colombian city
While in Riohacha, we stayed at some hotel first before continuing on
Basically, she left the hotel to go to a nearby store and buy some water for us
She was gone for maybe 20 minutes at most
When she came back, she brought back the water and picked up a very small wash cloth on the bed
She sniffed it and asked who it belonged to
Which basically led to her inquiring if another woman had entered the room while she was gone
For only 20 minutes
And that the washcloth belonged to another woman because it smelled like it had the scent of a woman
She wasn’t angry or upset but was looking at me closely
Even though it felt like a very dumb test
I knew she was just testing me to see if I’d act nervous
Which I wasn’t
Because I obviously didn’t invite anyone into our room for the 20 minutes that she was gone
And was just generally confused by the question
Until I realized it was just another one of her tests and again she was showing how strong jealously in Colombian women can be
Final Thoughts
Keep in mind, Tamara is probably a more extreme case where her jealously actually turned into controlling behavior
And in my moment in which I ended the relationship with her…
Her controlling behavior was one thing that influenced, out of several factors, to end the relationship
Of course, even though most Colombian women are jealous…
I haven’t noticed this degree of controlling behavior in most Colombian women
And so what are some final points that could be made here?
- Most Colombian women are jealous but most do not have controlling behavior
- If she shows jealously, it is normal to a degree in Colombia
- However, if her jealously becomes too much or turns into controlling behavior, end the relationship
- Always stand up for yourself with composure and tell her no when it comes to her jealous demands. She will respect you more if you defend yourself with composure.
- Be honest always and transparent. Honesty generally helps with dealing with jealous emotions of a Colombian woman.
Hopefully this article helped explain things well regarding jealously when dating Colombian women.
And if you need extra help in dating Colombian women, try using this phrasebook for dating in Spanish to help you while here
If you have any questions or insight of your own regarding jealously in Colombian women, let me know below. Thanks.
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Hasta luego parceros,
Seth
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