As mentioned previously on this website, I first got to see Colombia when I studied abroad many years ago in Barranquilla, Colombia. Which led to me starting eventually my first long distance relationship in Colombia.
Here’s how
It was a great time where I saw everything this country had to offer – beautiful nature and beautiful women.
Near the very end of my studying in Colombia, I remember that I had entered into a serious relationship with a chick namedTamara.
A cute white looking chick with long black hair and a bit shorter than I am
Very curvy too with a decent body
She was just a young Colombian chick studying at some local college.
Meeting Girls at Exchange Events
We met at a bar that was hosting some “practice a new language” event
Back in those days, there was some local event that was being done once a week where basically a bunch of people would go to a different bar once a week to “practice a new language”
You’d show up to the bar sometime at night
And then there would be a bunch of different tables where there was a flag of a new country at each table
Therefore, if you wanted to practice German, you’d go to the table that had the German flag
Well, during most of my experience at this type of event, most of people who showed up were Colombians
Not too often did another foreigner show up
Back in those days, Barranquilla (and Colombia more broadly) did not have as much tourism
Especially since there were a lot more people too scared to visit Colombia
However, there was the occasional European who might show up or maybe another American from time to time
So then it may be asked….
Were these Colombians really practicing other languages?
Not really
This event, in practice, was mostly about drinking and meeting new people
Learning new languages was a bonus if you met someone who spoke a different language
So I showed up to a few of these events
And most of the time people would want to try and practice their English
I would usually go to the “American” table and meet some of the same friends I made over time
One night, this event has some local band doing a live event and a lot of people started dancing
Well, bored and horny as I was, I wanted to approach some chick and maybe see where the night would go
Therefore, I got up from the “American” table and approached the first girl I liked
And we danced, then I took her outside to chat since the music inside was too loud to hear well
Then later we went back to my place and got to know each other on dates after that
Later on, we started a relationship
However, my time studying abroad in Colombia was about to come to an end
Therefore, I was going to return to the US where I could finish college and move on with my life while she would travel to Germany for some study abroad program she got into
Which, by the way, if you ever want to know how to handle dating Colombian women that have traveled abroad, check out this article I wrote on the subject
Anyway, before going back, we decided that we were going to try and make this relationship work out long distance
We trusted each other and wanted to see if it would work out
And we set up a final date to when the “long distance” part of the relationship would be over
In which we would see each other again and no longer be long distance
Where ideally I would go back to Colombia (which I ultimately did)
Moreover, in the first few months of the relationship, it worked out great
No problems and we managed to keep up some degree of intimacy in the relationship despite the distance
However, in the end, it simply didn’t work out
Given how long ago that this happened, I don’t remember all the details exactly as to why it didn’t work out
Nonetheless, I do remember that one of the reasons was actually the lack of intimacy
Even though we managed to keep some intimacy online during that time, it wasn’t enough over the course of a year
Our conversations became more boring and it was more difficult to share any real moments with each other
Therefore, we had a conversation about it in the end
And she suggested that perhaps we simply “take a break” and perhaps get back together when we’re in Colombia again
However, on my end, I’m never OK with “taking a break” from a relationship
Though I never suspected her of cheating and she always seemed faithful, I always suspect chicks of asking “for a break” aslooking for an excuse to cheat
And when she suggested that “we take a break,” I felt that the relationship was probably dead by that point
And it would be better for us to move on
So I ended the relationship there when she suggested that since it was sort of the final straw for our relationship
And even though we talked after ending the relationship and she suggested that we get back together…
I felt that what is the past should stay the past
No point in trying to repair a burned bridge when it’s always easier forming something fresh with someone else
Just the way I see it anyway
So I guess some of you may be asking….
What could be learned from this small story?
Well, the reality is that some of you may be interested in thinking about starting something serious or a little bit seriousonline
Perhaps with a Colombian chick on Colombian Cupid or Latin American Cupid
Of course, you may not be in Colombia yet but perhaps you have found or will find a nice chick online
And then the question is – how are you going to make this work over the internet?
Well, I assume that experience would be similar to what I experienced with my former relationship with Tamara.
Based on this story….
Here are some useful tips for those thinking of looking for something serious online with a nice Colombian girl:
Tip 1 for a Long Distance Relationship in Colombia:
Set a final date: There has to be an ending to the long distance portion of the relationship. Your patience or her patience may run out before you two ever see each other. So try to set a realistic deadline for when you two are going to see each other more often in person.
Tip 2 for a Long Distance Relationship in Colombia:
While you are getting to know someone online, try to maintain as much intimacy as possible. This is a bit easier to do nowadays than before when I was still in college. Now you got Whatsapp and other online tools. So get Whatsapp and have video calls with her. Share photos. Talk most days. Send voice notes over Whatsapp. Basic ways to be more intimate.
Tip 3 for a Long Distance Relationship in Colombia:
Have a walk away point. If there is something you cannot tolerate, such as a “taking a break,” then know what it is and enforce it. This is a lesson for online dating and for anything else in life. Know what is the minimum that you want and walk away if you are not getting it out of the relationship.
Tip 4 for a Long Distance Relationship in Colombia:
Learn as much Spanish as possible. The better you are, the more women you can meet and the higher quality they will be. For learning Spanish, I’d recommend this textbook and also this phrasebook for dating in Spanish.
Tip 5 for a Long Distance Relationship in Colombia:
Do not send her money. On online dating websites, there will be the occasional girl trying to play your heart strings and get money from you. Just don’t send it ever. You never met her in person and most likely it is a scam.
Overall, I hoped this quick story and some of its tips were useful. If you have any questions, let me know below. Thanks.
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Hasta luego parceros,
Seth
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