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While dating in Colombia, there might come a moment where your Colombian woman lies to you…..
Have you ever been in a relationship with the chick and she tells you a very obvious lie to your face with a completely serious face as if she was telling the truth?
And you just stand there looking at her as your Colombian woman lies to you…
And you think 1 of 2 things perhaps…
Either one, you believe her completely because you love her….
And why would she tell such an obvious lie? So it must be the truth somehow
And your brain is doing such immense mental gymnastics that it probably deserves a gold medal for how impressive they are
Or second, you know she is lying and you wonder if she sees the word “stupid” written on your forehead?
You got that quick second of panic because you never had that word there before…
Now you think it is and you run to the bathroom mirror to see what trickery the devil has played on you today
How do you get rid of this damn tattoo that says “stupid” on your forehead?
No wonder she is telling such obvious lies!
Well….joking aside
In Colombia…
And perhaps other Latin American countries too
You will sometimes encounter rarely a certain lie that Colombian women will tell their foreign guy when they get caught doing something stupid
This is a lie that they only use on their foreign boyfriend or husband because the lie only works for foreign men
Ready to know what the lie is?
It’s the “you’re not from here, you don’t understand how it is in our culture” type of lie.
Now what kind of BS is this?
Here’s a story among a few I have that illustrates how this lie works…
In my first year back in Colombia after I graduated college, I went to teach English in Barranquilla where I studied abroad
During that time, I met a guy named John from Wisconsin and he happened to be teaching English also at the same school we are at
For him, he had just graduated from college studying engineering and was basically just using some money he saved up to go have fun in Colombia
He was a bit skinny, no muscle, average height, short blond hair with glasses
In the time I met John, it was his first month into living in Colombia and he was going to be here for 6 months more or less
Anyway, in his first month, he met a cute Colombian chick.
I don’t remember her name but she was a bit more petite without too many curves. Nice black hair and a few tattoos also on her legs
Well, I remember something very funny about their interactions together
About a few weeks into them meeting each other, I heard John using the phone of the school we were teaching at
They had a “domestic” phone and a “international” phone so that their mostly foreign teachers can call home occasionally
He starts the phone call going “mom, dad…I got a girlfriend.”
Boom.
Just a few weeks into meeting this chick and they are already in a relationship!
I remember talking with John about it and he seemed quite happy. Supposedly this was his second girlfriend ever. The last one being way back when he was in high school.
So I suppose it was nice for him to find someone new that could make him happy….
Right?
Well, one night John and I decide to go to a bar with some other English teachers as well.
After that, we went to some club where there would be plenty of dancing and ideally for me some cute chicks also.
Once we were there, some of the other English teachers and I buy a few drinks and look for some chicks to dance with
John was mostly just chilling with another English teacher who didn’t dance much either
The night went on fine like anything else
Got a few numbers and I was happy anyway
But then I noticed something off about John. He’s talking to some chick it looked like but it was a dark place so I didn’t know for sure
And when I got up closer….
There he was arguing with his supposed girlfriend.
I had no idea what they were arguing about. The music was too loud and my Spanish wasn’t as good in my first year back inColombia
Anyway, nothing else happened aside from some arguing
But I talked with John a few days later when the weekend was over and asked him what the problem was
Well, the club we went to was one of the more popular in the city – La Troja
And John supposedly saw his girlfriend dancing in a nice dress with some other guy
And he was watching them – and supposedly they kissed
Not just on the cheek as that is common here….
But on the lips as well.
I didn’t see this other guy when I approached them. I just saw both of them get into some heated argument
But according to John, she told him that “people are more intimate with each other here” and that “it is completely normal.”
As in, it is “completely normal to dance intimately” with strangers at a night club while you are in a relationship
Or it is “completely normal to kiss a guy” when you are in a relationship
Yeah right.
For John, I could sense that he knew this was wrong and her excuse was BS
But she was going for the typical “you are not from here, in our culture Latinas are more intimate with others and it doesn’t mean anything. You don’t understand.”
And even though John was smart enough to know this was a BS excuse
I could also see he was doing some intense mental gymnastics in his head to try and justify how this actually might be “part of Colombian dating culture.”
In the end, they didn’t stay together long term. However, it wasn’t because of this incident.
They stayed together until John had to go back to Wisconsin
And in the time they stayed together, I saw this chick be a bit more flirtatious with other guys at the English school we taught at
Which, by the way, she worked there too and was how they met for anyone curious
John also stayed in that relationship in part because they worked in the same school and he didn’t want to cause work drama
And you know what is unfortunate?
He sort of “half believed” her BS excuse and even said it to me that “Colombian girls are more intimate” and maybe it is “just a small mistake or misunderstanding.”
Hopefully, not too many men are falling for this BS excuse
In most cases where I have seen it happen, men usually know its BS and don’t accept it
And it’s happened to me once before where a chick I wasn’t even in a relationship with tried throwing the whole “it’s part of our culture” line when explaining why she showed up an hour late to a date
I understand people are a little more late to things in Colombia but an hour is too much
And I just cancelled the date with her then when she showed up so I can say it to her personally
For me, you have to have boundaries despite cultural differences…
Such as an hour late being too much obviously
And you have to know when the chick is just throwing you a BS excuse for her infidelity
Such as she pulls the whole “you’re not from here, it’s our culture and things are just different, accept it” line.
It’s just a common example of when a Colombian woman lies to you
Therefore, I hope this helps with understanding a scenario that happens when a Colombian woman lies to you
If you also want to better avoid unfaithful women in Colombia, read one of my other articles on this website regarding this subject
And if you need more help for dating in Colombia, make sure to check out this great phrasebook for dating in Spanish
Hasta luego parceros,
Seth
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